Saw the movie a couple of days back. There's a dialogue in the movie that got me thinking. The translation goes something like this...
"Do we ever break our relationship with our mother? No. We never go in search of a different mother, come what may. Then, why are there so many break-ups in bf-gf relationships? It's because we don't treasure it as much as that of a relationship with a mother. We are not totally sincere in love."
- what else could possibly be the reason?...i wonder...
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33 comments:
machi,
BRAVO !! you survived the movie.. :) nice dialogue... and got me wondering too... but the movie, as a whole, IMHO, was pathetic...idhula paavam Nambi-ya vera kooptu asinga paduthitaan..
if you liked the movie, thuppinadhukku manichukko..;)
one possible explanation though it sound illogical/immoral whatever.. bf-gf relationships (some, not all) are so unsteady, probably because both the guy and girl subconsciously decide that "idha try panni paakalam...seriya varala na.. what the heck, the world is full of people.. ! :)
dont know why I said that..actually liked ur post and wanted to write something... so came-up with that explanation... however, I dont believe in that.. :)
cheers!
coz ego doesnt come between mother-child relationship, but in every other relationship it does. :)
Arun- the movie was ok- it could have been a better one but for the raunchy scenes and dialogues. The guy has potential but is wasting it in want of easy fame and money. Hope he makes good cinema pretty soon. And your explanation- lol- avalodhaan solluven :D
Sri- ego naala oodal vandhaa seri...but break-ups? i can never be convinced with the reasons people give for breaking up...
What do you mean by sincerity in love? Unna kayapaduthikkitu avalukkaaga ellathayum vittu kodukanuma.
Machi no person can be in perfect harmony with another person, onnu rendu chinna sandai varthaan seiyum.But the reason that this kinda small sandais lead to a break up is the inability of the persons involved in this fight to ask a Sorry. Adha ketta podhum ellam sariyayidum. But we dont do it thats ego.....
i think its becuase, mother is family... and family is always close to you and they are easier to understand and you have to put up with them! After a while being with them you realise the +ve's and -ve's and become accustomed to such things... Whereas bf, gf sorta thing... Its not the same, people are not willing to be as patient, there always seems to be another one for some... Also I guess your right about the sincerity, but this is not the case for everything... Why did arranged marriages from before work, compared to love or arranged marriages these days??? People thought they had to tolerate things and people usually learnt to put up with such things...
ram ego nala yar first vandu pesaradhunu sandai and sorry kekarathuku oru prechanai. idu perisa pona it might be one of the reason for break up... ida vida better reason enaku thonala
I suppose it is just the time for which you have been with your mom.
And invariably mom always vittu kuduthufies for you. Not so with a gf. Essentially same as Sri's reason I think...ego.
Also probably has some "kudi irundha kovil" type sentiment fundaes.
ego ivalo mosamaana onnu nu therinjum people find it hard to let go of it...very very very bad.
u know best da...mr.minimal ego :P
knock knock... hey ram its arun jana here... was following ur posts for a while now... interesting samacharams discussed... and abt this post...
i guess u r right... only oodal comes when its just ego but break ups are coming... when people fail to sacrifice... when people use their brain when they should use their heart... when people demand space when they should show love...
And tht i feel answers the question why we dont break with our mother. its a good topic to discuss kashtapattu shorten panniruken :)
pv- all the more reason for me to find it hard to accept break-ups :P
Arun J- people use their brain when they should use their heart- aptly put...thanks for dropping by ;)
Is "Ah Aah" the name of the movie? :D
jammy- aamaam da :O
Anbae Aaruyirae = Ah Aah
Makes sense to me though :D
My First Comment in my First English Class in my UG abt Love marriage.
"You donot choose you mom, dad, sis, bro or any other damn relationship. Not even your name or religion. Not even if you have to eat, Not even your color. Sometimes not even if you wanna be a diabetic or not. It is just forced on you. EXCEPT who you can choose to live with"
Ithule ethukku poi egonu ellam vetty pechu.
Oruthya pudichruntha Ava enna pannalum Alagu. Ava unnai veruthalum. Athvum Alagu ;;)
aks - what does? :-?
Vish aka Vishnu :P - noothula oru vaartha machi. U can choose your friends too- that's something to think about...
a pessimist would look at it this way:
i can choose friends and my life partner only from the limited people i know... like the school i go to, the locality i live in..etc etc... but there might be a 1000 (or more :P) guys/gals who are worthy of being friends/partner.. but i never meet them!! :((
but i am not a pessimist, so i wont say this!! ;)
PV- wats the connection? :O :-s
"U can choose your friends too- that's something to think about.."
edhu daan connection... :P
you learn to depend on your mom/pop etc..
why its almost impossible to break up with your child hood friends too!!
most of the time we grow up with them, share our joys/sorrows idiosyncrasies with them. same with life partners, the longer you grindit out and hang out together .. the more you adapt and confirm to each other. however, as gopalT was saying earlier.. its teh preparedness to sacrifice . one might have to sacrifice a lot of things to accomodate the company of another person. we do that even for room mates. and then life long partner is a whole lot bigger issue than that!! ;
the other thing is.. what we are and what our tastes/preferences are are shaped up and built-from-scratch by our mom/pop early teachers etc. but by the time we grow up and start looking out for a partner .. we are already "made" ; if we dont realise that we need to be re-made, we are primed up for a break up :D ;
cheers
ram
pv- oh so, i don't need to say anything about your comment, right? :-?
Durbha- good to hear the opinion of a married man, someone who married his gf, infact ;)
kashtam
hey Interesting discussion going on here..my two cents would be... parents gave us the foundation for the person that we are today, so it's very easy for one to accept them the way they are. But after living 20+ years of your life in a way it might become a tad difficult for you to put up with your gf/bf 's beliefs if they are way different from yours. But all said and done, one of my fav quotes 'you are unique like everyone else'..so ultimately the key to happy living is mutual compromises I guess..okai romba philosophicala aayidithu !! :D :D
Vidya- welcome back! been a long time...
True. But what good is it to make them ur bf/gf without knowing what their beliefs are and incase u make them ur bf/gf despite differences in beliefs, isnt it ur duty to keep up the committment?
this is a very philosophical topic although it doesnt seem to be one at first glance...so u r ok ;)
OFF TOPIC.. but what to do.. you did not post on this for me to comment on.. so ehre goes
all the philosophy is lost on the irony of india "Seniors" winning the challenger series because of Uthapa who is in the "B" team..
this thing has become so funny now.. some how im not comfortable with the idea that teh "S" team is better overall than either "A" or "B"
cheers
ram
I'm not in a position to comment about if uthapha should have compromised or played to serve his own interests..but here goes..
No one has been a part of our life for as long our parents and so we feel indebted to them. They taught us the values of life that they knew, so we cannot demand too much of them even if we become more knowledgable than them.
In choosing ones life partner, one can either go with no expectations and learn to accept or be totally conditional and lay down your requirements, before giving it all to the chosen one! What path you take is totally dependent on your level of exposure in life. You may be able to truly love a lot of people but there is only one person you could practically live everyday with! Once a trust is broken in a conjugal relationship, its hard to linger around, you only prolong the downslide...So might as well be smart and move on..
Durbha- how did i miss your comment? :O- on hindsight, good i did :P - one of ur usual blabbers- hehe!
Apoorva- what's the haste in establishing a relationship when the trust hasnt been established? Are we that desperate to find a partner, never mind if we break up eventually? Being smart is not moving on, but to establish ample trust before committing to a relationship, aint it?
ofcourse, am not talking about relationships that are born out of an arranged marriage, but pre-marital ones. just in case if it wasnt obvious...
atlast un opinion ena ram?
These days evryone seems to have a bf or gf and they r getting into it with an option of always getting out of it if needed. Now r these relations?
They r just trying out options....
Sri- one shouldn't commit if they feel there's even a slim chance of break-up.
anonymous- interesting perspective.
Ram, read this link. interesting perspective!
Naren- done!
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